The winner will be announced on February 25th. 

# of Visits to this site since voting began = 3532
# of Total Votes  = 118
# of Votes for the top submission = 29

TOP 3 SUBMISSIONS:

Hopeful = 29 votes
Justme = 26 votes
Sprockets = 15 votes 

The voting is closed.  I will contact the top three selections on February 22nd.  They have 24 hours to respond.  If the 1st selection agrees to participate, I will begin the transformation into their perfect woman.   If they do not agree, I will go to the 2nd on the list, and so on.

Thanks for your participation,

-Your Perfect Woman

Where to begin? I’m not sure there is enough room on here to
describe the perfect woman. Likewise, I don’t think there would be
enough here for the perfect guy either. Having stated that, I will do
my best to assist in this project. Wish me luck!

I do believe that we should start off with looks since that’s usually
the first thing we notice in people. This is going to be really hard
to describe since there are sooo many different sizes, shapes, colors
that can be considered “perfect” in my eyes.. I’m going to have to
make it vague for now…

Height-5′ to 5′10 I would like her at eye level or just a little
smaller. Body type-mmmm nice athletic body, not too muscular, but
tone. Could live with someone with a body like Carmen Electra’s in
Meet the Spartans. That is a body..
What’s next? Pretty faces are hard to describe, light colored eyes,
pretty smile, and smooth skin with long hair is a good start. A nice
tanned body is hard to resist as well.

She would have to be athletic; I would think the perfect woman could
hang with the things that I do. Most importantly, she would have to be
understanding, forgiving and believe that honesty and communication is
the key to any successful relationship. She would have to love me for
who I am and accept me for the situation that I am in. However,
knowing this, she would want to be part of my world and know that I
would love her just the same.

Some other things would be that she was drama free, no kids, no crazy
ex’s and be financially secure. We are talking about the “perfect”
woman right? smile. Hope this helps with the project.

The perfect woman for me is a woman that is HONEST, faithful,
loving, caring, respectful, courtious, compassionate, VERY PASSIONATE,
has a good atittude, has integrity and IS NOT A (GOLDDIGGER) wanting
to help out both financially as well as emotionally when needed and as
often and as much as is needed! NOTICE, I said WANTS to HELP, NOT,
JUST WILLING to help! I would also like her to be attractive both
physically (such as her face and a nice body that is not too fat or
too skinny like skin and bones)she also needs to be beautiful on the
inside which is were it counts the most (Smiling, caring, respectful
and always trying to please her significant other)! I, ALWAYS TRY TO
PRACTICE WHAT I PREACH! I also always try to do the right thing and
treat others the way I want to be treated or the way they want to be
treated, whichever is the better way! I never intentionally hurt
anybody, BUT, sometimes I, as other, do, unintentionally hurts someone
else by what I say or what I do, BUT, it is not intentionally done to
hurt anybody!

my perfect woman is well educated, academically prepared,
speaks at least 3 languages, has to be very romantic and positively
minded,
likes a healthy life, does not smoke, but loves a good dinner with a
glass of red wine,
is 5′8″ tall, slender athletic, weighs 140 pds, has brown long hairs,
brown eyes,latino type, 43 to 45 years of age, love outdoors and
countryside as well as a city life with all the social activities,
loves sport activities like tennis, golf, hiking, skiing, swimming
likes to travel all the world by plane, by ship and by car, visiting
historic sites as well as romantic beaches, interesting forests and
mountains,
love to dance and listen to all kind of good music, from latin
rythms, over jazz to classics,
loves to wear young and ultimate fashion, jeans as well as a great
evening dress,
and finally has to be my real other half, my companion in all my
businesses,a little bit of workaholic, my activities, my hobbies, my
soulmate, my lover…..
She has to love me, just me

When I saw this on the news tonight I felt puzzled. The
central question is WHY would any woman — for that matter any man–
want to make themselves over just to please another person? There is
no such thing as a “Perfect Woman”… or a “Perfect Man”. We can can
all make a laundry list of things we would like in a “perfect woman”
or a “perfect man”, but that “perfect” person is a construct of our
minds. What makes every person unique, just like diamonds, and just as
precious, are their flaws. In people some of these flaws exist inside
a “perfect” body, and no matter how pretty the package the flaws can
be so great as to debase the person. Likewise, as in diamonds, the
brilliance of a person must shine from the inside out, though for far
too many all they see is the outside of the person and they never look
for the brilliance.

Me?? I look to see the whole, and not the minutia, and evaluate the
person both inside and out. I prefer blonds and redheads, but many of
my relationships have been with  women with black or brown hair; I
like blue or green eyes, but many have brown eyes. I like Caucasian
women, but many of my best friends are Afro-American, Afro-Caribbean,
or Asian. I like women who are tall and shapely, but many of my best
friends are a little on the short side and can be more than a little
over weight, or thin as a rail. I like women who have medium sized
breasts, but some of my better friends go towards the opposite
extremes from truly flat chested, to  Dolly Parton sized. I am 55 and
like woman who are about 5 years younger than I, but some of my best
friends range from 61 to 35!!! I evaluate the person as a whole, and I
either accept them as they are, for who they are… or not. I much
prefer the genuine article, rather than a false substitute. Don’t try
to be something or someone who you are not, for you will be found out.
You can not be either my or any man’s “perfect woman” without first
being yourself. The best you can be is some man’s fantasy date, but
fantasies are illusions, the veil of which at some point will be
pierced by the cold light of reality. You end up going to bed with the
“perfect person” only to discover in the clear light of day you went
to bed with an ass.

Instead of seeking out the “perfect person” seek out a perfect
friend. A true friend will stand by you through the worst of times,
and celebrate with you during the best of times. If you are trying to
be the “perfect woman” then read — or re-read — 1 Corinthians 13 in
the Holy Bible.

In closing, if you want to be my or any man’s “perfect woman”…
FIRST BE YOURSELF!!!

The perfect women would not count the mistakes or wrongs done
but let go their love grow.
This would let love grow.
Now this does not mean war on the family like cheating.
 Relationship/marriage is something to protect.
The most important thing she thinks about is the relation ship as
would we live it. Believe it will workout that is the relationship
with a commitment to working on it and with it.

She be living in truth and now with each other

Be able to laugh at the things that go wrong.
Accept mistakes and learn from them.
 A desire to spend time together.
Celebrate each Monet.
Open minded to the world and yet have a strong self.
Mind spirit and body functioning.
Want things will to work for them.

Treat all people with respect. Encourage to all when ever possible.
Be human not a robot
Natural self
Dress average
Our interest would be somewhat the same.

Goals the same

Good luck

Hi there

Thanks for asking about the perfect woman. That seems like a perfect move.

The perfect woman is on the clock. She is married and has kids.

TPW visits me when She can get free from that far away place.

Meanwhile, back on the farm, I wonder..

..Who are you?

Ah, the perfect woman.  Since I am not perfect it would be
hard to expect a woman to be perfect. 
If it had to put into words; a face that I could wake up to every
day.  If you could find it in yourself to love me every day that would
be great, you don’t have to like me every day though as I am not
perfect.
Everything else is gravy!

THE PERFECT WOMAM —– THE ONE YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH !!!

Perfect woman for me is not typical or mysterious or
wonderful or beautiful If there is a women then she contains much
virtues than a man she will be caring,loving,sensetive,productive and
have an ambition these are native charecteristics of a women and these
all virtues are not  found in man If a woman contains these own
virtues then she is a perfect woman nothing to include or exclude in
it.
I don’t think that we have to expect much from woman she is also a
haman being and she may have own feelings emotions ambitions and
desires .
I always see woman in perfect spectrum and try to find that what I
can Include in me to be perfect .
Woman is a great creation of God and nothing can be added or expected
from her she was best , she is best and she will be best for ever .
It’s my own view if someone is not agree with me then I am sorry and
I am in searh of my woman with all her native virtues

The perfect woman is to be slender. A great personality.
Respectful, as well as well educated.
Does not look for conflict but tries to be a mediator. A smile goes a
long way verses the mad or protective look. Free spirited, loves to
seek and participate in new and exciting adventures.

.. i am guessing that this “perfect woman” is the one that
made this site or atleast with idea for this so i somehow hope this
will reach the desired destination, wich is this woman who wants to
become someones fantasy girl or a perfect woman. I dont know i am
going trough some rough moments now.. i lost the love of my life so
my ideas, suggestions or opinions may not sound objective.. but i’ll
continue however. I think i accidently found this site ad on syl dot
com and i think i made the first comment under a nick Val heh.. and i
was thinking to myself … why would this woman do this? Why changing
youself, why? when without all this to me you already are a perfect
woman. I accept you as you are i would like to see The Real You the
one who you really are and that would be the person and a woman that
would be the perfect and that is the perfect woman.. dunno i supose
this comment will just get overlooked.. but maybe not i hope you find
someon that will take you as you are, and not trying to make of you
his perfect woman, because at the end that wouldnt be YOU, wouldnt
it? Glad if i could help with “project” in any way. An apologises for
bad grammar.

I am not certain how to say perfection, though I have spent a
lot of time trying to figure it out; I had to stop before I went crazy
trying to figure out more. This is where I left off:

It seems I think perfection certainly happens; this does not matter
for I see that it only actually does.
Perfection is not so much a thing that happens in certain function or
form; it is a way of saying: an equal way (virtue) of all being. The
ideal, or perfect, cannot be described in certain-reasonable term(s);
the closest facsimile to perfection is not the idea, not the qualified
or quantified, it is the actual in the sense that perfection is a
living character or an aspect of character living. The notion of
perfection is rooted in free form sense, natural function sense,
expression(s) of living by life; living (perception) roots the notion
of perfection. Perfection is a right of-way; the privilege of achieved
perfection is for the individual, for all that is different to the
ends of perfection, for any/all difference equally achieved.

Some may claim perfection as the objective allowance for all
subjective beauty. As I see this, perfection may be an allowance for
beauty, for if there is to be (a) beauty of any one, there is (a)
beauty of all. The objective perfect does not seem to manifest, as
seen by how it manifests.

I see there being not-one perfect woman, any more or less perfect,
then all, or any one. Perfection may not be gender specific, though I
reserve my right to see perfection, as the special privilege of a man,
in the feminine form, in the feminine way. There is nothing more
graceful to me then the beauty of a woman being. Perfect women are
free to be as they are all equally perfect to me. The masterpiece,
woman, the variety of each and all, is one of my favorite things
about being a dude.

And then there’s chocolate, perfect women love chocolate

as people know…women are not my thing…life accident…or
modern interpretation of population control…who knows…my perfect
person…life long friend…isn’t necessarily a representation of
what i want…’cuz what i want i can never have…and i accept
this…but, someone who respects themselves as much as i can myself
is a plus…if you see what you actually are opposed as to what
society can make you…that is an achievement of its own…color and
formation are a formality that we thrive upon but, doesn’t prescribe
to our being…so, that being said, doesn’t matter…achievements
based on academia i look upon as a improvement but, only if you feel
that this is something worth a damn…otherwise, you are not true to
your prospects…an opposite to myself tends to stick out…i like a
person who can challenge me in many ways…sex is a basic but, not in
a literal sense…passion is more resolved and satisfying…to feel
what a person has to explore is more of an eye catcher than what you
look like…passion, yeah that’s key…living and surviving is my
“perfect woman”…whether that is doing and being or breaking these
restraints, i accept…full on and no questions asked…unless
otherwise needed for my sake or theirs…perfection will always be
but, never achieved…and so, my perfection is that…if anyone shall
take me up on this offer…then i grant them full access…and if we
accept am i going to quote mr. v himself…”so it goes,” and so it
shall be…and life shall continue with “perfection” itself…love ya
“perfect woman.”

to me, the perfect woman would be my missing half, and I to
her. spontenaity and impulsiveness are a must, both to remind me of
my own past and to balance out my present withdrawnness. creativity
of any form, as well as a dry wit and a love for kitsch.

physically, I’d prefer someone tall (from 5′6″ to 6′3″) and
definitely curvy. not a stick like the sorority girls I keep seeing
around, and definitely not spherical. someone with a good, cocky
smirk.

Confidence maturity a sence of humour and most importantly
the ability to say when they are not happy in a relationship…a
woman that knows what she wants and is willing to share those magic
ingredients…men are silly buggers really and we need a little help
in truly giving our partners what they want and need…we dont read
minds

Good looks, good personality, loyalty.

My perfect woman is now an Angel.  What I will do is let you
know what I miss the most about her and I will leave it up to the
readers to decide.
She could not read my mind but she knew what I was thinking.
When I would be feeling down she could look into my eyes and make me
forget all that ails.
When I would be working outside she would not yell to me from the
door, but come to me and whisper in my ear.
She was the busiest person I knew but she always made time for me.
She is the person that showed me that there is common ground in just
about every difference that we may have had.
When things didn’t go the way that we thought they would she could
show me a different way.
When we went to bed each night so did everything else that happend
that day.
She said what she meant and she meant what she said.
When she would tell me she loved me I would ask God why.

My perfect woman is balanced.  She’s career oriented, but
knows how to kick back and relax.  All class in public and a vixen in
the bedroom.  She’s a redhead and shorter than I am.

She likes sports and art and understands why both have equal value.

Likes animals and doesn’t mind a pet or two.

Thin to athletic with a love for physical activity. 

She eats what she wants in moderation and doesn’t let the bounds of
society trap her into being something she’s not.

She like to wake me up in the morning with sex and  scratch my back
in the evenings before bed.

I want her to be beautiful, which means

(on the outside):

thin or athletic,

weighs less than 150 lbs

big boobs, like Jennifer Anniston,

nice face, like Jennifer Anniston, Heather Locklear, Molly Ringwald,
Liv Tyler or Serena Altschul,

hair and eye color doesn’t matter as long as she has hair and eyes,

hair is around shoulder length or longer

she isn’t crosseyed

around age 30,

at least 5′ tall,

has no kids, but wants them with me,

is not disabled

(on the inside):

likes to touch, hug, kiss, hold hands; cuddling is ok,

means it when we touch, kiss, hold hands, cuddle, have sex, etc.,

cares about my feelings, my mental and physical health,

likes sex and intimacy with me,

doesn’t cheat on me,

smells ok (doesn’t smell gross; keeps clean),

doesn’t criticize or complain too much, especially about things I
do,

non judgemental,

not overly obsessive about things,

not paranoid,

If she has had a mental illness, she has been treated for it and it
is not noticable,

not too bossy,

doesn’t consider herself right all the time, able to compromise,

stands up for and defends the ones she cares about,

responsible,

junior college grad or higher,

likes movies, video games, stories, fitness, art,

has a positive attitude,

likes people, is a people person, sociable,

doesn’t mind shy or sometimes quiet guys,

likes to talk about a variety of different things, is generally not
at a loss for words,

doesn’t like illegal activity,

doesn’t do drugs and doesn’t like alcohol

doesn’t smoke except maybe a cigar a few times a year

when she gets to know me, she likes what she finds, then

loves me.

Should not be bald or have a super-short (crew cut) hair cut. Skin
should have very few blemishes or scars. Jaw should not be square and
should not have a cleft in her chin.
Slender(but not extremely thin), in good physical shape, athletic.
Breasts that are not very large, but proportional to the size and
shape of her body. Vagina should not have very loose or pendulous
lips. Preferably shaved or trimmed. Naturally grey/green eyes or
contacts are appreciated.

In terms of personality:
I like girls that come across as odd or quirky. I like thinkers and
artistic women. She should always speak her mind on all subjects.
Should be vocal in the bedroom too and sexually unrepressed and
interested and willing to try new things. Should have traveled to
several countries around the world and be interested in travelling to
more. She should enjoy trying new things.

She should be a bit impulsive in her actions and not like to plan
things out too much. She should prefer tea to coffee. She should
enjoy a wide variety of music and not be locked into any one
particular genre. She should like reading and read on different
subject. Should enjoy playing video games. Should not be very into
the bar scene.

I have been trying for several weeks now to formulate this expression of perfection. It is not that i am necessarily conflicted, but rather i have two divergent notions that i feel i must blend into a synergetic manifestation of what i ‘expect’ of the perfectness to be achieved in your quest to be my perfect woman. Not a problem that one minds having, more a conundrum of avoiding the pitfalls of tangents related but distant.

So i will try to dispense with one of the aspects and see if i can later blend it into the second. I know a perfect woman. And for me, the best for which i could hope is for you to become her twin.

She embodies every aspect of the perfection i have long desired, wished for, discovered within myself, sometimes ignored before i later realized, and so far forth. Her mind is keen and brilliant, often articulated through opinions and observations that are beyond the pale in terms of their depth of conscious awareness and savvy about the world around her (though she is relatively young in relation to me). Her art is profound, her skills in ethnobotany a necessity, her joy in being alive and surrounded by the spectacular beauty of the world–these challenge her to become more wise and more deeply connected with the universe and the Earth.

Her body is filled with experience of physical mastery of skills sets, both beyond her years and, in many cases, beyond most others. She had previously competed at the university level in cross-country, basketball, and track; she has spent long periods of time trekking in winter desolations, hunting arrowheads and artifacts in the high deserts, and diving from house-sized boulders into large rivers. Over the past few years she has worked for my festival production company, able to jump from building large event infrastructure to cajoling participation from children, and in between helping craft spectacles, all with grace and wonder.

I find her incredibly attractive and luscious. Almost 5′10″ of muscled grace weighing 54kg or 8.5 stones, toned by physical fitness and strength training mixed with the best (Earth wise and friendly) eating habits of a knowledgeable vegetarian. Naked she is stunning, with naturally perfect body hair in all the right places, without need of attention, the darkness of it contrasting so well with her truly mediterranean-olive skin tones. The curve of her breast fits fully into my large hands, her areolea capable of soft puffy states as well as contracting into a nice fingertip size nipple. I love yonis and vulvas and hers are magnificent: labia majora with long hairs to twirl; labia minora with soft hues of pink ginger and darker purple.

This gets us into the second part. For years i have collected images of perfect women. I was an ocean lifeguard on the rich beaches Los Angeles for many years, and was always aware of the contours and constructs of beauty, both as a cultural dynamic and within my own personal aesthetics. What i have noticed is that my selections have shifted dramatically over the years, and are now filled with images very much similar to my dearest sweet friend. I look for the long dark black hair, the chiseled muscular (but lean and gracefilled) body, glutes that can be held perfectly by my two hands, and so forth. I look for the proportion of long legs almost but not quite equalled by the length of the long torso. I desire her natural smells, and her makeup free face. I look forward to every moment i get to spend with her, which is far too rare.

Thus i can only request that you become the twin of my perfect woman. And i really believe in this two are vastly superior to one of any other.

for me it is quite simple. the perfect woman firstly doesnt
exist. relationships are work and it takes two people to make them
work, however, to be close to perffect all she needs is a sexual
attraction and a fun attitude towards her own sexuality. essentially
to enjoy it. a happy person that can roll with the highs and lows
that life throws at us. sounds simple doesnt it .

It’s simple all I need is heart and a pretty face oh and in
the same age group. If she shows more heart than anything else then
it doesn’t matter if she’s poor or rich or where she comes from
people will want to gravitate towards her. I think it’s what sparks
the most interest. Trust me most people want to be with a good person
the darker the sould the less attractive she’ll become over the long
term.

healthy, avoids meet unless she prayerfully hunted it
does not wear high heels or undue makeup
does not shave or wax
has  biek and rides it
composts and grows pants
wors for social justice, creative, activism, teacing conscious
things
shares
has lots of money and shares it

“She walks into the room and my heart flutters, butterflies
flap their beautiful wings in both our bellies “Ah, the idealistic
dream of beauty and intelligence, charm and wit, sugar and spice and
everything nice. In my 33rd year of life and I still am unsure of
what my “perfect woman” would be.

It is safe to say that she would have more than a passing interest in
the arts, both visual and literary. That strange mixture of
career-minded and family-oriented woman would surely be present. A
brisk confidence in everything she does, but not to the point of
arrogance.

She would at the very least tolerate my filthy habit of
smoking cigarettes and, preferably, not imbibe in too much alcohol.
An openness to political and theological debate are grand, as long as
neither is taken too seriously.

The mystery of physical attraction is too great to boil down here; it
is not the sum of the parts but rather the whole package that seals
this deal. There must, certainly, be a physical spark between us, but
there are no guiding lights as to what causes this.

My “perfect woman” is all the above and yet she must remain true to
herself. Change is an inevitable part of life, but I’d prefer if she
didn’t do it solely for me.

The perfect woman can explain herself to a men. And make them
understand.

hey if you really want to know what i think my perfect woman
should be they should be highly confident in themselves and not worry
what other people think looks aren’t really a big deal with me. I
think a woman should also have an open mind to anything new like
scuba diving or random stuff like that. Other than that i like a
woman to be outgoing, doesnt mind a smoker, and an occasional drink
here and there isn’t to bad either. That is pretty much what i think
my perfect woman should be like. O and one other thing she shouldn’t
mind affection from a man either.

Apollo and Daphne

I dreamt I had become the sun,
and you were a wild iris, that
rose out of the soil awakened
by early spring rain and
my warm, bright days.

A tall stalk,
pale and slender
with a gentle nod
and a ripple of silk
the color of dawn.

You waved in the breeze
like smoke.

Holding a single blade
you wilted easily before my heat.
I wanted to pile
moist black earth
against your fleshy bulb. 

But, you would have none
of that, as you put out
yet another flourish.

So, I became the ocean,
and you were kelp, with
long ribbons streaming
like Pele’s golden hair

below churning surf
with buoyant bladders
streaming bubbles that
danced in my amber light.

You let go and washed ashore
to become a cloud,
so I became the wind.

I shaped and molded
you into many faces.
I pulled and remade
you, time and again.

I pushed you against mountains,
and you became black
and fell gorging dry washes.

But, I couldn’t let you go,
so I became the dark, dark Earth,
and you a river winding
through my broad valley.

I contained you,
but you eroded my banks,
and churned me into
a thick, brown slurry
that you left in crescents,

where you became a tree
rooted deep into me,
and wild irises bloomed
in my black, black mud.

FOR ME, BESIDES APPEARANCE, SHE STILL NEEDS TO BE PLAYFULL,
AT 54, I`M NOT WANTING AN OLD SOUL IN MY LIFE, HER PAST HARDSHIPS ARE
IN THE PAST. IF I MET SOMEONE WHO CAUGHT MY EYE, WAS YOUNG AT HEART, I
THINK THE REST WOULD FALL IN PLACE!

Minnie Driver

there is no perfect woman, any more than there is a perfect
man.  it is the imperfections in us that make us beautiful.  i don’t
want anyone who would try to change themselves to please me or expect
me to change myself to please them.

In order of importance:

Big breasts (I mean BIIIIIG)
Perfect ass (round and firm)
Fantastically Flawless skin
Petite yet Curvy
Shoulder length blonde hair
Has one extremely feminine tattoo on her left hip (preferably a
butterfly or dolphin or fairy)
Girlish giggle (none of that snorting shit)
Cute gap between perfectly white teeth
she wears dresses and skirts, never pants. Short, but modest, and
doesn’t show too much skin to wandering eyes, other than mine. She
is demure in person, but has a slightly dirty sense of humor. Her
sense of humor is embarrassing to her on occasion, for instance, she
loves Adam Sandler movies, but blushes when she laughs at something
too uncouth.
She works in a traditionally feminine industry, a nurse, teacher,
secretary, or retail. She is dedicated to her profession, and is
practical with her money.
She has a strategically placed beauty mark.
She is college educated, with a degree in early childhood education,
nursing, or hospitality.
She has a good relationship with her parents, but does not live in
the same city with them.
She has one or possibly 2 siblings, and maintains a relationship with
them.
She has no children, but looks forward to raising a family at some
point in her life.
She is between 26 and 33, and has had sex with no more than 3 other
men, all of whom she had a monogamous relationship with at the time.
She enjoys watching sports, sitcoms, and movies, but is not too
particular with her taste, and willing to relinquish control of
choices like what to watch, where to eat, and what to drive to her
mate.
She is fit, and takes good care of her body. She does not smoke, but
drinks socially. She likes white wine, champagne, and margaritas.
She has never done drugs, and does not plan to.
She is not religious, but believes in being a good person.
She is sexually open to her mate, and easily orgasmic. She likes
giving and receiving oral sex, anal sex, and intercourse. She likes
being instructed to dress up in the bedroom, and always pays
attention to what her mate might enjoy. She is not opposed to
dressing as a cheerleader, watching porn, or masturbating in front of
him, but would never dream of doing so without being instructed.
She is very devoted and monogamous, but is excited by the idea of
another woman in bed with her and her mate.
Her favorite color is blue, her favorite animals are dolphins, and
she likes dogs. She may have a dog, a golden retriever or a lab and
I see her jogging with him in the morning before she goes to work.
She drives a reliable car, and maintains it well, like a honda civic
or a toyota camry.
She does pilates, and is a regular at her neighborhood Bally’s.
She wears white, pink, or blue matching underwear sets, never black.

Fritz Perls, the German Psychoanalyst, stated that every human relationship was either toxic or nourishing. That is to say, you’re either being fed or poisoned. There’s a simple test to determine which is happening. Spend some time with this person. At the end of your time together observe if you have more or less energy. If you have more, you’ve been nourished, if less, you’ve been poisoned. If you can’t count on the perfect woman to share life’s little victories with you, buy you a beer when your down or remind you when you’re being an ass but still leave you energized, you have been poisoned.

For me to avoid a life full of poison, the perfect woman will be someone on the same life path or a complimentary one to my own. I can’t imagine going through life hating my everyday existence. You should be passionate about your life’s mission, whatever it maybe, if not you aren’t ready for your “perfect woman”. My perfect woman will share, support and grow our common passions into something where it becomes indistinguishable where her ideas and goals start and mine end. To me, if these qualities aren’t present, regardless of physical beauty, I will always be poisoned.

The perfect woman would have to be humble at times and a
tower of strength in others.  A great organizer but able to be
comfortable operating in total chaos.  Careful not to purposely hurt
others feelings, but able to speak her mind truthfully without fear
of losing friend/face.

You see, looks come and go.  What makes a perfect woman in my mind is
her strength of character, her kindness and concerns for others in
addition to herself.  And, most importantly her capacity to LOVE,
rather than HATE.

A lot of women think that they should dumb themselves down
for men. I can’t speak for the tastes of others, but I am attracted
to really smart women, hopefully smarter than me.

I also believe that there is no conflict between being a woman that
is razor sharp and being a woman that is loving and nurturing.

The perfect woman to me is one that is razor sharp, able to be loving
and vulnerable, and beautiful.

Beautiful: the parameters are undefined. I have found all kinds of
women attractive.

I will admit I like dark hair and smart eyes.

I also like women who are not afraid to get rugged outside-go camping
get dirty. I like women who want sex as much as I want sex. Sexual
hangups are a turn off, as are women who seem to be somewhat asexual,
or disinterested.

But in general chemistry is no. 1 important factor in the perfect
woman. A woman can have all the things I find attractive, but a lack
of chemistry makes the rest pointless.

The perfect woman for me was a bright,vivacious, intelligent
and witty redhead. She had curly shoulder-length hair, a fine petite
figure, and the most wonderful smile I have ever seen. Her eyes would
always twinkle with joy and happiness. I met her on a cruise in 2003
and she moved in with me in 2004. She had a great sense of humor and
always found the glass more than half full. We loved each other very
much and enjoyed every minute together. She died of brain cancer in
Sept 2007. She is gone now, but will always remain the  perfect woman
in my heart.

I wish for a woman who loves me, just as I am, with all my weaknesses,
my flaws, my quirks.

A woman who allows me… no, WANTS me to love her, just as she is, with
all her weaknesses, her flaws, and her quirks.

I wish for a woman who completes me: who picks up where I leave off,
who’s strong where I am weak, who is willing to let me fill in where she
is short, who lets me support when she falters.

I wish for a woman who’s strong and balanced. Not for someone who’s
going to hide behind me, or someone who wants to subdue me. Someone who
needs me to be at my prime to stand next to her, in her own best stance,
and who wishes to walk shoulder to shoulder through the difficulties and
joys that life will throw at us.

I wish for someone who loves me more than they dislike me, someone who
is my friend at all times, even when they are critical, who’s my partner
in times when one person alone would crumble, who’s my lover when one
person alone would shiver, who’s good company for on the long walk that
is This Life (obviously, being a good conversationalist is critical,
’cause… you have a whole life time to chat while you enjoy the
stroll).

Yeh.. and on the practical side - someone who does not have a bunch of
baggage.. no kids yet, and certainly no psycho ex’s… um.. not up to
her eyes in debt, or wanting to get us there together… someone who’s
healthy.. ’cause.. while enjoying your life together is grand, it’s even
better if that enjoyment is prolonged via a healthy lifestyle.

Um… and.. in bed… well… all’s fair in love and war?? how about
all’s fair in love making and warefare. Fair enough to mention it.
Should say: I wouldn’t think that having a perfect sex partner is nearly
as important as having a LOVING partner.. just to put things in
perspective.

Of course, I could not marry anyone who is not Masaai like me and my
parents. So, you must also be Masaai.

I would like for you to be the height of the wind, the weight
of a dream.
For you to have the hair of the night, the smile of the moon
Your eyes to announce the daybreak,
As I wake up, next to you, every morning
On our new paths, just walking

I would like for your skin to reflect my skin as they become one
For your kisses to grow all over me
For your thought to nest with my thoughts
And your steps to lead mine, mine yours,
In perfect reciprocity

I would like for you to trust the rise of a new world
For you to embrace the birth of me, imperfect man
To bare with me the growth of new hope
In a new garden full of voices
Harmonizing, living

I would like for you to hold my hand and run with me under the rain,
both naked,
Both free and bound to nature in continuous pulsations,
Both intertwined in the rhythms of passion
Dialoguing, breath to breath
Earth and sun, non-stop