Delia is Coming, Delia is Coming…
Sunday will be my last post as myself. I will work this weekend on constructing Delia, based on all the things I’ve mentioned so far: physical changes, emotional changes, and lifestyle changes. Then come Monday, I’ll start implementing all the changes.
After Monday, the Perfect Woman BLOG will be filled with Delia’s thoughts and feelings as she gets to know Alan, and her excitment as the dates approach.
Until then, please post comments and ideas on my transformation into the Perfect Woman. I’m still open to suggestions!
Delia will only respond to comments posted on the BLOG entries created as of Monday. Please feel free to comment on the previous posts, but Delia/Perfect Woman will not respond.
-Your Perfect Woman
March 1st, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Dear Perfect Woman / Delia,
Just sort of catching up. Personally I like the Longer Layered look for you as for your hair style. It would really “frame” your particular face well.
Second,I tend to agree with Poetry Goddess, and you should get that gap in your teeth *permanently* fixed, not temporarily fixed — might as well as get something useful done out of this project.
As to the concept of “cheating”. Personally I think you would be making a HUGE mistake if you were to cut off your relationship with your long distance friend. I have been in a long distance relationship with a woman I have seen only 4 times in the past 28 years. I also have very strong relationships with women some married some not, and I care about all of them differently and uniquely, but I care about them all. Just because you start “dating” some guy — or even MARRY some guy, you don’t surrender your life. You will each have an INDEPENDENT life outside of your personal relationship with each other. Friends fall in that group. Just because your long distance friend is a GUY would it be any different if it were a GIRL?!? Would be be “cheating” if you were talking to a “girlfriend” about your intimate and personal thoughts, doubts, etc?? So why not a GUY, especially if he lives, far, far, away?? If, as you say, you are 36, I am sure Alan can not be so stupid as to believe that you don’t have *any* relationships ongoing. Nor should you believe that *he* doesn’t either. FRIENDS are what get us through life. Don’t give up a good FRIEND simply because you *may* have some feelings for him. If you were to give up your relationship with him, and your relationship with Alan were not to pan out you would really feel like a fool. Should this “project” actually pan out for you and Alan, I’m should your FRIEND would be the first to toast you both and wish you well. If it sounds as though I speak from experience, you’d be right. Many of my FRIENDS were single when I met them, some are MARRIED now, other DIVORCED, some are WIDOWS, others are into a NEW RELATIONSHIP, but what is a CONSTANT is MY RELATIONSHIP with EACH of them, and them with me. Just tell your long distance FRIEND of your “project” and be open with him, so HE KNOWS what is going on with you every step of the way– he’ll adjust… or not. SECRECY is what destroys a relationship, not the acknowledgment that there is one. Like wise with Alan… or not.
Do you remember what I wrote you in my first post?? Re-read 1 Corinthians 13. That **IS** what LOVE **IS** as well as what a **FRIEND** is.
Your Wise and Wonderful,
Cheshire Cat